so I have been praying for wisdom in more ways to be effective in disciplining and getting the girls to do their chores. the bible says if we ask for wisdom, we will get it. I also think that we need to be willing to become humble to actually listen, to know what the wisdom is. It may be what we do not want to hear or what we are not willing to do because of pride. So with that being said:
My kids will earn an allowance through chores. I have listened to lots of feedback. Some say it is not good to pay kids for things they should already be doing. Here are my thoughts. Chores are work. When we go to work as adults, we get a paycheck. Based on our performance and more responsibility, we get a raise. I believe it is a good way to teach children good work ethics. AKA: that you do not get money just because or that you can just be lazy and expect the same as everybody else.
Each of my children are different ages so each one will have a different amount of allowance. This being because the older they get, the more they can do, and should be rewarded for such. With that being said, they will each have a chore chart based on a points system.
They get one point for each chore. Each child has 7 chores. (the chores range from brushing hair and teeth to doing laundry and washing dishes) they get one point for each chore done completely, 1/2 a point for each chore done partly, no points if it does not get done at all or when I ask them to. They will get two points if they do each chore without me having to ask or remind them. they will get 7-14 points total per day.
49 points gets them their full earned allowance
25-49 points gets them half their allowance
16-25 gets them 1/3 of their allowance
0-16 equals no allowance
if they earn 75-98 (10 -14 points per day) points they will get an extra special privelege as well
some things are 30 min later bedtime on the weekends, prize from the treasure box, be able to ride bike further up the street, or special outing with mommy or Daddy. they can pick one special privelege a week. They have to earn the full 98 points to do so. (the 75-98 points is them doing most of their chores everyday without me having to ask) Each special privelege will have a point value attached to it. They will start fresh each week. I will not be allowing carry overs or stashing points. This will prevent the thought process of "well I earned this much this week, so I only need to earn this much this week."
Now I need to get a treasure box and find some great thrift stores, Big lots, and clearance racks to fill it with. This will also give me more freedom throughout the day to do things I have not been able to because I am doing all the cleaning. This is my reward for years of raising youg children and molding them into what God wants them to be. Parenting is hard. It does get easier the older they get, but you get different challenges along the way. I never believed it would get easier with three toddlers/babies. But I can testify, it does.
link for chore chart
link for chore chart